This week on Healthy You! we will be speaking with David and Faye Fields, authors of The Invisible Wedding. This book  and its web site speak to the powerful spiritual partnership that a marriage can be.

Healing Conflict
Careful investigation of the roots of conflict inevitably find an attachment to a thought or a concept. This identification with our thinking causes our awareness to contract and we soon become tense. In a relationship, this tension inevitably gets transferred onto our partner. He or she now becomes the source of our discomfort and the battle ensues. In truth, our tension was caused not by our partner, but in the ruthless defense of our ego mind.

The way to break our attachment to an unhealthy pattern of thought, (for that is all conflict is), is to turn immediately within. We take the attention off the apparent source of discomfort, our partner , and connect internally with what we are feeling. At first we will make contact with our body’s tension, a tight stomach perhaps. But as we stick with it, resisting the tendency to blame, we will begin to touch a deeper pain. This pain is not about our partner! This pain that we now access is the pain associated with a guarded, defended, heart. The miracle is that in feeling our pain, it dissolves, and the heart opens again like a rose. All conflict is rooted in the mind.

Melding East And West
The book The Invisible Wedding by David and Faye Fields is a synthesis of Eastern and Western psychology. Western psychology elegantly points awareness to early childhood experiences and their powerful role in conditioning thought and behavior. With awareness of this content, it is believed, comes resolution and healing. There is truth in this, but it does not go far enough. Eastern psychology, on the other hand, points to the awakening of a much deeper dimension of life, to Higher Self, for healing, fulfillment, and inner peace.

From Eastern and Western healing traditions we know that each of us are composed of both masculine and feminine qualities. Aside from simple survival, the deeper purpose of human life is to become balanced, whole, integrated in both mind and heart. How do intimate relationships serve this process? As we relate intimately with our partners we begin to access our inner opposites. Males become more intuitive and women are able to express their clarity, wisdom, and power with greater confidence. All this blooms as we learn to bring awareness into our relationship dance.

The Invisible Wedding is a poetic term pointing to an inner alchemical process that gets ignited as we begin to heal and open up spiritually. Marriage is held sacred, in part, because it points symbolically to a union – a wholeness – within.

So be sure and join us this week as we speak with David and Faye about marraige as a spiritual partnership.

To your health!